You know it’s really hard to take a good look at yourself, really take the time to explore how insufficient you are and we all are in so many different ways. We are so insufficient that it’s easier to just ignore our own short comings and accept these as your flaws. But should you accept your faults and flaws and should your family and friends accept them as well? I think the answer to that question is yes and no. Like schrodinger’s cat, at one point in time there is and there isn’t.
The idea that you are at a point in time perfect because you accept your flaws and dont intend to improve is a dangerous propisition. Like Rick and Morty said you can be held hostage by your poor ideas and this is one that seems to permeate throughout society and manifests itself when people accept there shortcomings, faults and flaws which can manifests itself into conflict, chaos and even tragedy which they just accept is a part of life. Well yes it is part of life but if a trend starts to appear where the same chaos seems to emanate from one source then this might start to worry you and you might even wonder why this happens to you. e.g. Why does this happen to me? Why is there conflict? Why are my interactions with others not harmonious? Why can’t I get along with a family and/or friend? And believe me you want harmonious interactions as you will be viewed as more competent and more competent means more involvement and more involvement means an improvement in your life, it fulfils your own desire to be important as you feel important by being involved with others. That’s not to say you should agree and appease everyone, instead you should be taking care of yourself so you can give your best to those around you.
And so ultimately you realise you are insufficient in some areas and then there is the next realisation is what you should be moving towards, improving yourself.
The problem being is that if you don’t audit yourself, if you only half glance or let’s just say dip your toe in the water you never get the full picture, you need the pieces of the puzzle which pull together the full picture that gives you an opportunity to improve yourself. And I understand why you wouldn’t want to take a good look at yourself. It means admitting that you are not perfect that you are a person who needs improvement, to know that yes you are flawed and that there are probably a number of instances where your shortcomings have manifested into disagreements with others and most likely with your family and friends. Have you had a fight with a friend or family recently? But if you continue to skirt around the bushes and not understand what’s actually happening then you will be forever held hostage to the idea that your faults control and define who you are and you don’t want to be an aimless person controlled by their emotions and lack of direction, unless of course you do which is akin to drifting in the ocean with no direction, no sail and probably a boat that has got a few holes in it (in other words you won’t last very long). So you realise you have to improve, you have to, you have to be better because you deserve it and because you need it but the hardest part is really the first part and that is just taking a look at yourself which if you do will put you in a virtual hell and that is not done without courage and a significant amount of will power.
So if you do look at yourself and ask yourself questions, why this and why that only the truth will set you free and you will have to admit that you have been an embarrasment to yourself and the shame of embarrasment is so overwhelming that it might cripple you for a short time and as a result make you a more modest and humble human being. For without this we continue to repeat the same mistakes and who knows you might be able to live with it but your friends and family might not be able to. And as we are social creatures we desperately want social interactions but if your short comings continue to create chaos then how are others supposed to get along with you.
You must commit yourself to a deep hard look at yourself and you probably won’t have all the answers right away and maybe you need to gain more knowledge but there is beauty in harmony, setting the order out of your own chaos is cathartic, it’s uplifting and it’s acknowledging what’s happened.
That means be brave, go into the unknown, explore yourself, don’t beat yourself up, be honest with yourself, use an example of conflict that happened recently and figure out what really happened.
Only after you have looked at yourself can you move forward but it requires courage, bravery and lots of mental energy and for those that take up the challenge they will explore the unknown, they will set themselves on a quest, an adventure of personal discovery a pathway to greatness.
However you must enter this challenge of your own free will and those that do enter are not guranteed to be victorious. Shakespeare said – “to be or not to be that is the question” So let me ask you this would you rather be or not be. My advice, accept the challenge and explore the unknown, travel to the depts of hell and re-emerge with a light in your eyes, a strength in your posture and a focused mind.